Pencil yourself in – finding that much needed me time

If only there were more hours in the day.  More time for the things we all think of doing, but never really get around to.  Busy lives full of business meetings, play dates, housework and taking care of others – actually looking after ourselves can be put on the backburner.


Life can really feel like a blur at times, and a little bit overwhelming.  Anyone that has children will know that even a toilet trip requires an audience!  Trying to get just half an hour to yourself can feel impossible, but without self-preservation the body and mind can become out of balance and before you know it you’re eating on the run, fuelling your body on junk, not sleeping well and generally feeling rubbish.  We can all feel this way at times, sometimes we don’t notice we haven’t taken care of ourselves until we become ill or completely burnout.


How can we all find that healthy balance and make the most of our time?  A great way to get back your balance is to write down what you would like to do if you had some free time, and then add it into your schedule as a must!  Pencilling in “me time” can feel so selfish, but it’s pretty essential to both our physical and mental health.  We find the time for the important stuff in life so make yourself important too!


Here are 5 ideas to having some time out:

  1. Staying active

We all know that exercise creates endorphins, but also any physical activity can make us feel great.  Cycling to work, walking the dog, gardening are all great ways to keep moving.  Just being outdoors can give us a greater sense of wellbeing – whatever the weather, even if you only have 5 minutes to spare.

  1. Taking a bath

Ah the ultimate indulgence.  Fill it with bubbles, light some candles and listen to some relaxing music. Pure bliss.

  1. Reading

Turning off your phone at night and reading can help you to unwind after a busy day.  If you’ve got a good book, it can be totally escapism.

  1. Take time when you eat

Sit down and eat slowly with as little distraction as possible.  Enjoy every mouthful.

  1. Stop and smell the roses

Although it may seem like a cliché, taking time to “stop and smell the roses” can really put life into perspective and give us instant gratitude.  Just some quiet time to think and appreciate what we have has a profound effect on our lives.  Like anything it takes practice, but daily affirmations help to remind us of the good stuff.


Our time is precious and our days are short, but with a little sacrifice of something else there’s usually room for movement, then as if by magic finding the time we need is right there!

Kelly x

Have your cake and eat it (literally)

blog have your cake 2Is it really possible to have your cake and eat it, quite literally?  For some the mere sniff of a custard slice and 10 pounds head straight to the derriere!  Remember the old adage “a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips!”  How true it seems for some of us!!  So what makes one person able to eat whatever they please, while others have been on a ‘diet’ FOREVER?

We all know that friend or work colleague who can eat pizza or doughnuts (while we’re sat with a salad) and never put a pound on.  Everyone says “Wow, I wish I was that way, she’s naturally thin” or “She’s blessed with a high metabolism.”  Or what about those people who look very lean, yet claim they don’t do a single bit of exercise?!  You know what I mean, right?

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While this can make us feel green with envy, take a good look at their daily routine.  More than likely they are constantly on the go, and never sitting still – whether it’s hoovering, walking the dog or dashing about the office.  This makes a huge overall effect to the amount of energy (calories) they use each day.

One scientific observation I came across suggested that in general thin people are usually emotionally detached from food.  Unlike emotional or stress eaters, they tend to lose their appetite when upset or stressed.  They will often forget to eat as food isn’t that important to them.  While it looks like they are eating whatever they like, they probably only eat it in quite small amounts (therefore consuming fewer calories).

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The bottom line is to remember that unless there is an underlying medical reason behind weight loss/gain, (and although hormones and genetics can possibly play a role in whether we are thin or overweight), it’s most definitely lifestyle that has the most significant effect on body mass.  It is an absolute truth that nobody can sit on their butt all day every day, while eating cream cakes, without putting on a single pound – FACT!

So now that we know that we can all have the same opportunity to have the body we desire, let’s not get mad next time someone says they can eat whatever they want.  We know better!

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If you want to lose body fat move more and eat better, and save the good stuff for a now and then.  There’s no quick fix and it certainly isn’t easy (nothing worthwhile ever is).  Aim for progression not perfection.  Most definitely eat the cake that you have been wanting, denying yourself only makes you want it more – we are only human after all.  Body mass doesn’t define health, and wellness begins inside.  Feed your body well for the majority of the time and respect it, and it will work like a dream – your body shape will change naturally, food guilt will disappear and you’ll feel a spring in your step every day!

Kelly x

Post pregnancy body

Ahhh the post pregnancy body.  The baby belly, stretch marks, excess weight, saggy boobs – the list goes on.  Those darn kids, ruining what was once a temple.  Right??

Being a mum of 2 girls, I completely understand how difficult it is to get our bodies back into shape after having a baby, but it’s also so important to accept the changes.  Those tiger stripes are there for a reason mamma, so be proud!!

The only thing we can do is to be the best version of ourselves, so working with the body you have is where to start.  Forget the dress sizes, bin the scales, they are but a number.  Focus on eating well and moving daily.  Don’t make time an excuse!  Of course, we are all so busy and life seems to move so quickly these days, but make your health and wellbeing priority on your list of things to do.  In fact, don’t make anything an excuse.  Your body isn’t ruined and it’s certainly never too late to start.  So whether your baby is 20 weeks or 20 years old, you can always make positive changes to your health and wellbeing.

As women, we are programmed genetically to be nurturers, carers, and putting others first is a natural instinct.  Trying to change that and focus of ourselves can feel selfish, but in the long run it’s beneficial to those around us (you know what I’m saying)!

The question I get asked more than any other is “how do I get rid of my baby belly, I just can’t seem to shift it?”  I always ask if it’s ok to take a look, and 99% of the time the ‘baby belly’ is actually just excess body fat – which is the best news as it means you don’t have to be stuck with it forever and you CAN get rid of it!

In order to get rid of excess body fat there needs to be a calorie/energy deficit within the  body.  In order to lose 1lb of body fat per week, the calorie/energy intake needs to be cut by 500kcals per day.  You can do this by upping your workouts, moving about more, and eating less of the bad stuff.  There really isn’t a quick fix, but noting your food intake and exercise can be really beneficial in helping you become more mindful of your lifestyle.

Unfortunately, it’s not possibly to spot reduce excess fat on your targeted area, so you might find that if you’re wanting to lose body fat from your belly, it may come off your legs or even arms first, for example, and no amount of sit ups will change this – rubbish I know!  Persevere though, and the results you want will come.

Just remember your post baby body is beautiful and has served its purpose well.  It’s created the miracle of life, and that’s definitely something to be proud of.

I hope you find this useful.  If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate in contacting me and I’ll be happy to answer.

Kelly xIMG_7917